2020 has been a challenging year in a lot of different aspects. One major effect the pandemic is having is limiting people’s ability to socialize with friends and family. In turn, people are quarantined in their homes with their families for extended periods of time. With the outside world’s stresses, combined with not being able to get away from the stresses of family, the pandemic could be having a drastic effect on your relationship. What are some of the signs to be looking for and what can you do to help keep you and your partner as close as ever.
One major effect is that most people are working from home these days. Pre-pandemic you would be out of the home for 8-10 hours a day on average at work. This, although possibly stressful from work, was a time to separate from your family and change-up your mindset. People do not even realize that by changing the people your interacting with your giving your mind a different experience and a break from the “norm”. When you and your partner are working from home you lose that break. Couple that with your children doing their schooling in the other room and you acting as the teachers’ assistant, it can be a very stressful time. A study conducted in mid 2020 found that 69% of those involved found that the pandemic was the most stressful time of their career. Why…? For the reasons explained above. And, if one member of the relationship is having an especially stressful time with their job it will transfer over to their partner by their behavior towards each other and the family. Research has consistently found increases in stress to be associated with decreases in both sexual and relationship satisfaction.
So, what can you do about a relationship that you feel is slipping away? First and foremost: talk to your partner. And when you speak, look for signs of dishonesty. If they give vague answers, incomplete explanations of where they’ve been, inconsistencies in their stories…. this may be the time to explore a private investigator. Being quarantined should mean they don’t have time to sneak around but when there’s a will there’s a way. We will explore signs of “sneaking around” in our second part of this BLOG. Until then: stay safe and watch for those warning signs.